My dear daughter came to me the other day devastated and distraught. At first she was so upset she did not even want to tell me what was bothering her. Eventually the emotions of despair began to spill out. The Inventor is 10, almost 11, and she is just now starting to develop. It’s not quite time to rush out and buy that first bra, but the time is drawing near. The Inventor is not happy that this is happening to her body at all! She is a bit of a tomboy and sports girl so this kind of thing is not settling well with her. She even went so far as to make what I thought was a bizarre, impulsive comment about the whole experience. ” I wish I could just grow boobs in Haiti!” She blurted out towards the end of our conversation. Trying to hold back my laughter, in my calmest, kindest mom voice I asked her what she meant?
And it was at that moment I caught a glimpse of her dear heart. She went on to explain that in such a poor country like Haiti they don’t care if someone is growing boobs. They have so many other concerns…like finding food to survive, and shelter to protect them, the girls would be less concerned with what is happening to their bodies. She was right. She went on to explain how their priorities down there are quite different from ours in the U.S. So after much continued discussion about the dreadful acknowledgment that she is in the midst of puberty, we decided to have a “CSBD.” I’ll let you try to guess what it stands for, I will tell you the “S” stands for stupid. 🙂
So we are head out this Saturday for “CSBD,” we are going to Panera Bread for breakfast, and I am bringing my laptop so we can access their cool wireless service, and she can show me her “house” at Millsberry ( One of her favorite websites). Then we are planning to walk around our incredibly quaint town and do a little shopping, and then head down to our local tourist attraction, the oldest pretzel factory in the U.S. It will be a fun mother/daughter time…….and some needed bonding time. I want her to know that I am standing with her through her tough times. I have told her, I can’t fix/change her difficulties, but I can walk with her through these tough times. And I ultimately remind her that God is the potter and she is the clay, and He is forming her into the Godly women he wants her to be. And sometimes, it’s difficult, but God has a plan for her! She even brought up the Matt Redman song, “Never Let Go,” and seemed to be comforted ( somewhat) by the fact that God NEVER lets go.
I am hoping (praying) times like this lay the foundation for communication between the 2 of us during those teenage years, that are coming soon. That precious mother/daughter relationship is a treasure that should be cared for, nurtured, and protected through the years.
Never Let Go
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death
Your perfect love is casting out fear
And even when I’m caught in the middle of the storms of this life
I won’t turn back
I know You are near
And I will fear no evil
For my God is with me
And if my God is with me
Whom then shall I fear?
Whom then shall I fear?
Oh no, You never let go
Through the calm and through the storm
Oh no, You never let go
In every high and every low
Oh no, You never let go
Lord, You never let go of me
And I can see a light that is coming for the heart that holds on
A glorious light beyond all compare
And there will be an end to these troubles
But until that day comes
We’ll live to know You here on the earth
Yes, I can see a light that is coming for the heart that holds on
And there will be an end to these troubles
But until that day comes
Still I will praise You, still I will praise You
I am well over my strep throat and back into the everyday flow of life. But today as I was sucking wind while trying to exercise again, I was thinking about some of the GOOD things about being so sick
- My sweet daughter packed lunches for herself and her brother each day last week.
- I spent the bulk of 2 entire days laying on our new comfy, wonderful, pillow top bed
- I shed about 5 pounds
- I could upload a ton of pictures to my Shutterfly and Flickr sites (this always takes awhile)
- I got on an antibiotic that also cleared up the terribly annoying cold I had for 3 weeks!
- The doctor I ended up seeing at our family practice, is the husband of a dear women who I have not seen in awhile. His wife attended a local prayer group I started this summer. She has colon cancer, and I have not heard from her in awhile. So I got to catch up with how she is doing from her sweet hubby. And she is doing quite well!
- My sweet husband really pitched in around the house and gave me lots of needed empathy. 🙂
- I got to just lay around, and as a busy mom, that never happens.
I think teachers enjoy a good snow day as much as the kids do. I still feel the same excitement I had as a child when snow is in the forecast. I am hoping, anticipating a day off of school. So today when the phone rang at 5:20am to let us know school was canceled ( hubby and I teach at the same school, and it’s the same district our kids attend. So we are ALL off!), I went back to sleep with a smile on my face!
After playing in the snow so much in Lake Placid, we are all pretty content to stay indoors today, especially since there is a lot of freezing rain/sleet.
SportTman got a whopping $30 for shoveling a neighbors driveway.
Drums shoveled our driveway and got nothing.
The Inventor and I are making these yummy treats today.
And I am finally trying this wonderful crock-pot recipe I saw at Susanne’s a while back.
The kids and Drums are watching a movie right now.
It’s a nice relaxing day at our house…… and it is very needed.
I am thankful for snow days.
Check out these cookies I whipped up as a snack for the kids yesterday……while I was home sick. Before you think I must be feeling great to make homemade cookies…..or gosh, she must be trying to win the coveted “mom of the year” award, she made cookies while she was sick. Neither is true! Albeit, I do feel better, let me explain the steps involved in this process.
Step #1 – Walk to your freezer and pull out a bag of frozen homemade sugar dough ( made about 1 month ago). Pull out some red sugar, roll frozen dough into a ball, roll in sugar. Grease cookie sheet, put cookies on baking sheet, bake at 300 degrees for 10 min. At this point, you smile to yourself, since the house smells of fresh baked sugar cookies, and you have that content Martha Stewart feeling. The Inventor then comes home from school at the moment I am pulling them out of the oven, and proclaims, “Wow those look great!”
I quickly hide the baggie that had the dough in it so she thinks I am the greatest mom and slaved over the cookies, despite suffering from strep throat. LOL! Actually she remembered we had made the dough together awhile back. We then enjoy cookies together!!
The finished product. I added a chocolate chip, because it’s always wise to add chocolate to anything! All wise moms know this.
Here is my silly daughter enjoying her snack!
Ancient Chinese proverb says – “Smart moms keeps frozen cookie dough in freezer”
I feel miserable. I’ve had a nasty lingering cold, clogged Eustachian tube, and sore throat for about 10 days. But today……oh it’s gotten worse. Now I have the stomach flu and I am SO tired.
Here are a couple of quotes heard in my house today
“Mom…..what are you doing in there? Oh no. DAD!!!! Mommy is throwing up!”
“Why are you sleeping all day, can you play a game with me?”
“What is for dinner mom?” (Like I am going to jump off the couch and whip up a yummy, nutritious meal!)
“Oh honey I feel so bad for you………………. Ah, what should I make for dinner?”
“Don’t worry I will do all the dishes! ” (Praise God for my sweet hubby)
“She is throwing up again!” ( Why do they feel the need to announce this for everyone!?)
“You look horrible”
I have tried all of these products and still feel miserable. Any other suggestions? I have drank so much green tea, it’s a wonder I don’t pee green. 🙂 Please also pray for Amy at Laughing through the Tears, she is such a trooper. She has had a rough time lately with several personal and health issues. UPDATE – I just got back from the Dr. and I have strep and a bit of an ear infection. So I am hoping the antibiotic will kick in soon! Thanks for ALL your prayers! There are so many of you who are sick also….praying for all of you! ~Sandy
I have always thought family vacations are important times of bonding, and enjoying fun together. Even when I was a SAHM and we were quite broke, we still tried to take some kind of family vacation. We just thought it was a priority to get away together, spend time being a family, and savor time away from the stress of life.
So our recent trip to Lake Placid, NY was no exception to the family fun rule! We had such a glorious, crazy, adventurous time together. I know some of you will think we are crazy, but we love the cold and snow…..yes I understand, some of you when you think of snow, you think, hot chocolate, homemade soup and a good book. My family thinks, SNOW, let’s go!!! We all built the snow fort below, it was around 6 degrees out while we were working on it. Due to my current over 40 body experiencing daily hot flashes, I kept quite warm! 🙂
We also tried cross country skiing for the first time. I really liked it. It is one heck of a total body workout, but skiing along the beautiful, peaceful snowy trails made it enjoyable.
Drums took the kids downhill skiing at Whiteface Mountain ( where the 1980 and 1932 Olympics were held). I can no longer downhill ski. I have a torn ACL in my knee. It’s been torn for years, but once I turned 4-0, I decided with the torn ACL I should give up skiing. 😦 But don’t worry about me……….. I enjoyed drinking coffee, and sitting in the lodge reading a Karen Kingsbury book my mom gave me. ( It was the first book of hers that I have read, thanks Mom!)
We also ice skated on the frozen lake, visited an amazing ice castle, took in the scenic beauty, shopped in downtown Lake Placid and enjoyed the hotel pool, hot tub, and steam room! It was so hard to come home! But we made some wonderful family memories.
I haven’t done WW for a long time, but this dear photo of hubby was priceless.
I yelled to the kids this morning, “we need to leave by 7:15, I have a meeting at school at 7:35 and I can’t be late!” It was 6:45am, and I still needed to eat, pack SportTman’s lunch, find some clean pants in my laundry mess for my son, and try to find 5 min. to drink a cup of coffee and
read glance at the morning paper. I then did as every wise mom does, gave a 10 minute warning and a 5 minute warning, so the kids knew I meant business. So at 7:15 I expected to see the kids in the van and ready to go. I grabbed my coffee, lunch and laptop bag and headed out to the van. I said to “prompt daughter” sitting ready in the back of the van, “where is your brother?”
SportTman was still getting ready! Finally about 7:19, while we are waiting in the van in the driveway, he comes out. In my most wise,
calm, motherly angry, mad, yelling voice I told him, I meant 7:15 and not 7:19 ( trust me, this is NOT the first time this has happened, we are always waiting for him! Our “commute” to school is only about 5-7 min.). So I told him, he could not use his Nitendo DS for the rest of today and he owed me a dollar. He immediately complained, whined, yelled and of course said “it’s not fair.” I told him he doesn’t have to pay me the dollar or hand over the Nitendo if he came into my meeting and told everyone why I was late! He didn’t pick that option. 🙂
But as we drove on to school together, his tone calmed, the mood in the car became more lighthearted, and when I dropped him off at school in front of his friends, he says back to me, “Love ya Mom.”
I just love that long-legged, size 12 shoe wearing, baseball, basketball, soccer playing 13 year old….yep through it all he is my son, and I am thankful for him!
Wow I didn’t realize it’s a been a week since I last posted……it was a busy week. Thankfully we had a nice snow/freezing rain, 2 hour school delay yesterday! 🙂 We a still waiting for a real snowstorm here, I get so jealous looking at all the snow pictures on other blogs!!
The other night Drums rented an old Journey Live concert DVD filmed during the Escape tour. I heard “Open Arms” blaring from the TV in the basement. I was intrigued and went downstairs to see what he was watching. Suddenly I was jolted back to my junior year in high school when I saw Journey in concert. There before me was Steve Perry with his 80’s haircut and his tight jeans belting out, “now I come to you with Open Arms…..” I had a serious retro moment and had a sudden urge to hold up a concert lighter (For all the under 30 crowd, before cell phones were invented, we would hold up a lighter in the air during concerts……this may be hard to believe, but there was once a time when people talked on a phone with a long cord attached to the phone). Then came the song “Stone in Love”, which has a line in it that was the theme for my 11th grade homecoming, …….”the memories never fade away”……..Suddenly I was thrown back to my homecoming dance and visions of me strutting around in my hot Gunne Sax dress…….. Wow, it is probably good that the memories actually DO fade away!
But then it hit me in the middle of Don’t Stop Believin’, that I was no where close to being a christian at that time in my life. I was a rockin, partyin, wild girl. The main thing on my mind was fun, parties and boys. But that all changed the summer I left for college. As I was packing I came across a tract that I had picked up in the hospital after a brief stay for knee surgery. I sat in my bedroom, and read for the first time in my life that I am a sinner, in need of a savior. And there in my bedroom, the day before leaving for college, I prayed to accept Christ into my life, didn’t tell a soul and left for college the next day!
Since that day, my view of the world and it’s priorities and values have slowly been transformed, and transfigured by Christ. I am so far from that rockin girl at a Journey concert, my life has truly been changed by Christ. It was fun to watch the Journey DVD, but it was also a wonderful reminder to me of the power of Christ to change a wretch like me.
I once was lost, but now am found, was blind, but NOW I see! It truly is Amazing Grace!