I witnessed such a sad event this past weekend. And as I get ready to embark on another baseball tournament weekend, I just felt the need to write about it.
SportTman ‘s baseball team has done very well in their inaugural season, they have won 5 of the 6 tournaments they have played in. For the parents, it’s been busy, but it has been thrilling to see these boys rise to the challenge set before them and play hard to win. They have comeback to win many of their games.
They are 13 year old boys, and they are still playing for the love of the game, sure they are hard on themselves when they strike out, or cause an error, but the passion for the game of baseball is still what drives them.
This weekend I witnessed what can happen when that anger and passion is not directed in the right manner. When a player has not learned to lose well, when he has not grappled with learning the concept of self-control.
As our team was going to shake hands with the other team after we just beat them in the championship game, one of their boys, tackled our catcher, shoved him to the ground and started punching him in the face and head!!!! Thankfully the coaches and the umpires jumped in and took control of the situation, and thankfully our catcher was not injured, just shaken up.
So what causes a 13 year old boy to punch another baseball player?
What causes a boy to have a total lack of respect for another person and wants to hit someone instead of shaking hands?
Are we doing a good job of teaching our kids to lose well? Do they understand that losing is part of the game?
Are players and coaches so consumed with winning that playing the game is forgotten?
We all make mistakes, and it’s ok to fail at something. I sometimes think we want kids to be happy all the time, so they never learn to work hard through tough times. Those times will make them a better person, but it’s hard…..and that is ok. They learn to develop good character by dealing with self control, losing, hard times and failing occasionally. I always ask my kids when they make a mistake, “What did you learn from this?”
What do you think???