How did I get here!!??

Work for Me Wednesday

Tips for moms who are weary! 🙂

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My 6’1″ son asked today if I could please get him new jeans since his are getting too short…..again!  My daughter asked for band-aids because she cut her leg shaving.  How did I get to this point………. my almost 12 year old is shaving her legs and my 14 year old is over 6 feet!  I remember people telling me “it goes so fast, enjoy ’em!”  And “they” were right!
Well I have learned a few key things over the years and I thought I would share them with those who still have younger kids.  Just a little advice to keep you going when in those moments you think to yourself..Does this really matter?  Will this make a difference? Will this shape their character?  Will this draw my kids to God?  And for those tired, weary moments that everyone has…..hang in there what you are doing matters! 🙂

Here are a few things I have learned over the years……..

Read, read and  read to them while they are young!!!  I know I am a teacher telling you this, but I have seen what a difference it has made in my kids!  They are not huge readers at this age, but will pick up a book and enjoy it when they have time.  We used to pay them a dollar a book in the summer and other reading motivational incentives to get them to read.  I am convinced the background knowledge from books has made both of my kids good students.
Do not feel bad about disciplining your children.  I know it is hard at times.  But it is so important for children to understand there are consequences to their behavior.  This understanding is huge when they are teenagers.  My kids do not like being grounded now, nor did they like spankings, time outs or having privileges taken away when they were little.  But they accept them now, since they know their are consequences to their actions.
Be involved with their lives.  Teach their Sunday School class, help coach a soccer team, be a room mother, allow them to get used to having you around for their activities.  When they are teens and don’t always want you around, they will be much more comfortable with it since they are “used to having you around.”
Talk to their friends, find out what is going on in their lives, be personal with them.
Start early with feeding them food that is good for them, even if they keep spitting it out, keep trying.  Once they are teens (especially boys) all hope for good nutrition is gone.  So it helps if they come into those tween years with healthy habits!
Don’t rush the kids to embrace the latest trends, styles, or material objects.    Don’t rush them to see movies that are “just a bit beyond their age group.”  Don’t rush them into growing up.  Don’t give them a cell phone in 4th grade.  Let them wait for things. This is very helpful when they are teens when things really start to move fast and they want everything. If they are used to waiting is is SO much easier!  If they are used to being ahead of their peers, and getting everything they want, they will be very demanding of this as teens.  My kids still have not asked for a cell phone!  And we did not rush them into different stages of growing up and even though they have been public school kids all along, they still have a healthy sense of innocence to them.
Have FUN, be silly with them. Do activities with just them.  I have played 9 holes of golf with my son the last 3 summers, I am no golfer, and walking 9 holes of golf is not my idea of fun.   But the time together with him is priceless.  I met him at his level and interests and it always lends itself to fun and bonding.  He is 14 and he is still fine with hanging out and doing fun things with his mom.
Family game nights, silly times together, sleepovers in a tent in your house, wrestling with the kids, baking together, swinging on swings with them, playing laser tag with them, go hiking together.  Just a few ideas.

I know see how important the foundation we built for my kids when they were younger is so important now!

So there is my Part 1 on How did I get here and What Have I Learned. Stop by next week, same Bat time and same Bat place for Part 2.

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14 Comments Add yours

  1. he & me +3 says:

    Thank you so much for your wisdom…I am doing many of those things, but time sure does fly by and they want to grow up so fast…I already miss their baby days:(

  2. Love this post.

    My 3 are 11, 9 and 4, and it is going SO quickly.

  3. From a mom of 4 grown “kids” – YES – good stuff!

  4. Tara Steffen says:

    I know, I know! My oldest two just went to prom. I really try to remember them being younger, but have a hard time doing it.
    My babies are growing up. ( and all I wanted them to do was grow up when they were little!)

  5. Hadley says:

    thanks for the encouragement!

    I heard once that living with preschoolers has the longest days and the shortest years. makes so much sense to do these things you’ve mentioned now!

  6. Classic Mama says:

    🙂 I need a tissue…

  7. Michelle says:

    I hear you…..completely. I am in my mourning that my youngest just lost her first tooth….*sigh* (I put a pretty funny description yesterday at my blog).

    I also have the 6’3 son who needs shaving cream and razors….we won’t even talk about how his basketball sneakers are almost equal to a mortgage payment.

    Thanks for reminding people about how quickly they grow up…..and to cherish and encourage the family fun times such as watching movies together and just enjoying each other while we can.

    Peace…and Happy Easter!
    *~Michelle~*

  8. simplyspoken says:

    very, very, very good stuff. even though i’m not a parent

  9. angela says:

    great tips sounds like you are a great mom

  10. Diane says:

    So funny– didn’t read your blog until tonight–we must have been on the same thought process because I wrote something similiar on mine today! 🙂 It is so hard to watch them grow up so fast. I really appreciated all of your tips though. Curt is at the pre-teen age and it is getting harder every day to keep him grounded. I will be checking back for more advice. Thanks Cuz!!

  11. Carol Campbell says:

    I enjoyed reading all the comments, and how true they all are, ” time does go by fast “. Yes, we all have to enjoy the moment and hang on. Sometimes I wish I could still hold my children when they were little, and my baby just turned 40. Thank goodness for grandchildren!!! So hug them all and appreciate there demands before you know it you will be watching them leave the nest.
    Thanks, Sandy, for your blog, what a wonderful way to keep up with your family. Love, Aunt Carol

  12. Beth says:

    having two 20 somethings (gasp) and a 10 yr old I have gotten a 2nd chance at this parenting thing…Not that I was bad back then..but I did make mistakes and get to retry things this time around! Love your post… I did get my then 4th grader a cell…only because we have not landline…but the stinker keeps losing it…so pretty much worthless…lol

  13. Faith says:

    well, mine are 15 and 10 and you are so right on!
    it just flies by. I cannot believe my oldest is reviewing for her learners permit….and thinking about a prom dress for next year already!
    Your “things you have learned” are things are matter to me too. I have posted about many of those same thing…especially the discipline issues and the reading. You are an awesome mom and a friend in Christ! oh, and HAPPY EASTER!!

  14. I found your post refreshing and insightful. As the mother of two younger children, I find it encouraging that I am at least doing some of the stuff right. Thanks for sharing.

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