I am celebrating the end of a crazy, hectic, yet heartwarming school year!
What a crazy June it for this mom. Tyler graduated, he left for a week at the beach, we threw a big family party for Tyler and for Madi’s big 16th birthday. We also went to a lacrosse tournament and some how I limped my way through the last few days of school.
I am just saying….. lots of vitamin supplements and coffee seem to be my mainstay to keep me going these days!
But I made it!!! Made it through the school year!!! This post is about celebrating making it through it all!
It’s a crazy journey, and sometimes when I have down time, I almost don’t know what to do with it. I am so used to going, doing, working, helping etc.
There were many EMM’s (Emotional Mom Moments) along the way. The kind we all go through when our kids suddenly grow into young adults and you try to savor those last moments of their senior year. This is Tyler’s senior night at his baseball game….a true EMM.
Another one of this EMM’s was when Tyler won our school’s Grosh Award/Scholarship. It is the highest athletic honor/award the school gives and Tyler was the recipient this year. You can read more about it here. It was a great honor for him, and we could all savor that moment together at an athletic dessert social in early June.
Madi turned sweet 16 and had a big party at a friend’s pond. It was a fun pond party with food to plan, cake pops to make, prayers for good weather and a ton of other stressors along the way. Really what was I thinking planning this party 5 days before graduation!!! But it all went well, the sun came out 5 min. before the party started and it made for a beautiful late afternoon pond party.
And Madi ended up making these cool cake pops all by herself, boy were they delicious!
And then there was this moment…………
And a special hug from one of my students who Tyler walked with at graduation.
And all that happened the first 3 weeks of June!
But as I said I made it!
And most important Curt made it though it all.
He just went along with what ever I told him was happening. With so much going on he really depended on me to keep things consistent for him. I was really thankful Margo the dear lady who stayed with him during the time I was at school was able to come consistently during those last 2 weeks. She was a source of stability for Curt amidst the chaos.
Curt was able to understand the fact that Tyler won several scholarships and other awards and that he graduated, but it was like someone who gets it, but is very apathetic and unemotional about it. He kept saying it was awesome, but I don’t think he totally reeled in the emotions of it all.
He has been same the last 2 months or so, the anger issues pop in now and then and are not pretty, but don’t last as long as they did a year ago. Thank goodness! He is eating a lot more and hopefully gaining back some of that weight he lost. He struggles with HOW to get the food to his mouth, but is quite happy to eat his favorites. Although his repertoire of the food he likes is very limited, but that is ok, just so he eats. He has lost lots of that muscle mass, he used to be one solid dude, now he is mushy. :( Two minor things I have noticed get worse are his inability to get himself a glass of water, he confuses how to work the faucet. He also can no longer take off his shoes with out help. It’s the slow demise of those daily tasks that are so sad to watch slip away. He can no longer shave or take care of those daily personal hygiene skills that we all take for granted. He walks slower than molasses pouring from a jar, and shuffles and kind of bends over some as he walks. He almost looks robotic in his gait. But he still retains a fun sense of humor and tells me all the time that he loves me so much! So we press on and cherish those glimpses of the old Curt!
Also, I must once again thank SO MANY of you that helped to get me through the spring, there have been SO MANY of you that helped out in big and small ways. Friends who cleaned out my disgusting fridge, brought meals, prayed for us continually, gave gift cards, let me borrow a lawn mower when ours needed repair etc. Spring was just overwhelming and so busy, really, I know I am repeating myself, but I just couldn’t keep up with everything at times, and became a bit forgetful and I am sure I did not thank many of you.
And a special Thanks to person who made us dinner the week of Graduation! It was a really delicious spaghetti casserole!! The timing was PERFECT, but Curt had no idea who dropped off the meal. I believe it was the night of baccalaureate, and the way that night was going we would have never had dinner. So thank you to the mystery person who has blonde hair. That is all I could get out of Curt.
Tyler leaves for 3 weeks of summer classes at Liberty this week……Ahhhhhhhhhh, minor freak out, but I got this. We appreciate your prayers as we all adjust to him being gone. Also Madi has several lacrosse tournaments with traveling to Va. and Maryland, do pray for the logistics of that. And pray that we can all just savor some family time.
A few pics from our big family graduation/birthday party
Curt with his brother!
The Rock? Sometimes it seems way out there somewhere. It’s bumpy and hard, right at the water’s edge. It even hurts when we fall on it.
The Rock! But it sure makes a great foundation when the storms hit!