I said to Curt while getting out of the car in the 90 degree heat at a lacrosse tourney, “Well honey you win the award for being the most active guy with Alzheimer’s!” He got up 2 days in a row at 6am, I got him dressed and we headed out the door for an early 8am game in the heat. He hung out in the heat watching two games on Sat., used the nasty outhouses, (which provided a nice challenge for me since he needs a bit of help these days…… and then I was so paranoid he would somehow lock himself in the outhouse, oh can you imagine the horror of being locked in one of those!.) And he reeled in the commotion of the two games close together. He would get so confused as to what was going on, but would continue to go along with whatever I told him. Sunday, Madi had an 8am game and then not again until 3pm. We had time to kill between games, including a long chilling out time at IHOP! And then some shopping, which we know how much Curt loves! And then a short 1/2 hour nap in the hot van for him and then back to the last game. More time in the heat and then the 5 hour drive home.
Really, it’s a lot for a guy in the late moderate stages of Alzheimer’s to deal with. But He is a trooper, he sits patiently in the heat, and really doesn’t complain.
People often ask me how he does with these kind of things…..overall he does well. He would keep getting confused with when Madi is playing and how long the game lasts etc. But he would hang tough and sit out in the sun drinking lots of water and seemed pretty content.
He also LOVED our family vacation! He wanted to be part of everything. Really once again he was a trooper!! Got up early, stayed up late, enjoyed chatting with my extended family. We rented a beach house with my family, it was a ton of fun. Curt had always enjoyed the ocean. He and the kids would be out there for hours………..now when he wanted to go out in ocean we were all nervous!
But he was pretty insistent about wanting to go in. So Tyler was the first to get him out there, and we all quickly joined him out there. Due to the spatial issues, he had trouble judging when the wave would break, and at one point Tyler literally picked him up to carry him out so the wave would not break on him. So,Tyler, Madi and I, and my two surfer, boogie board riding brothers, kept a careful watch over Curt while he was in the ocean. But as it is in the ocean, inevitably the “big wave” came, and despite our efforts, we all got toppled. We all quickly pop out of the what feels like the wash cycle of the washing machine, all looking for Curt. For that brief second no one sees him, and then suddenly his head pops up and he loudly proclaims, “That was AWESOME!!” And that expression seemed to capture our entire vacation for Curt. He really enjoyed the long conversation with family, the pool, the beach and just some time away.
But the lazy days of summer are beginning to wane as we take Tyler to college to start his freshman year TOMORROW! And I have some back to school commitments coming up as well as looking for people to stay with Curt in the fall. Honestly I am not looking forward to the busy, crazy, stressful life again. I find myself getting a little battle weary…..maybe I am just getting older, maybe it’s that fun woman hormone craziness, maybe it’s Tyler leaving……….it’s probably all of it combined.
But I have also come to understand Matthew 11:28 28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
Jesus gives the invitation to Come, but it is us who must get up and GO!! We must Go the Lord, and give him these burdens. Trying to carry them on our own just doesn’t seem to work real well! 🙂 So I am working more on Going to the Lord with the burdens of the day, I often try to carry them on my own. Working on that more for this Fall….Going to the Lord and LEAVING those burdens of the day there.
Thanks again for your ongoing LOVE and prayers for our family!!